Therapist Isiah McKimmie on How Couples Can Have Better Sex

The Short Version: Isiah McKimmie is a therapist who specializes in sex and relationships, and she’s devoted to helping couples find sexual freedom together. Through one-on-one sessions as well as fun blogs and podcasts, Isiah guides couples toward a harmonious relationship full of lasting intimacy and healing.

Most couples steer clear of talking about sex because it’s such a sensitive subject. I understand, but letting relationship problems stay hidden and unresolved does nobody any good. If intimacy has become a struggle for you and your partner, counseling and therapy can really help.

Recent research found that 99% of couples who went to therapy said it had a positive impact on their relationships.

For more than a decade, Isiah McKimmie has been helping couples.

Isiah McKimmie works as a therapist focused on sex and relationships, and she told us she started her practice hoping to give couples the right tools for building a strong sex life. She often notices a pattern: couples tend to seek help years after problems in their relationship first appear. Getting professional support right at the start of intimacy issues can be what makes or breaks a relationship.

“We don’t hesitate to reach out to someone if we don’t know fully what to do with our finances. We will go to see an accountant or a financial advisor. If something doesn’t sound right in our car, we’ll take it to the mechanic without even thinking that we should be experts or we should know what to do with it,” said Isiah. 

Isiah urges her clients to feel comfortable asking for help when sexual difficulties come up in their relationships. Her aim is to support couples as fully as she can through love’s highs and lows. Working alongside her is a hand-picked team that’s every bit as eager to see couples flourish.

Better Sex Lives, One Conversation at a Time

A single conversation can alter a relationship’s course. Lots of people run into trouble with a partner because they overthink things or make assumptions rather than asking their partner to clarify. If couples therapy has taught me anything, it’s that clarifying questions can really help you understand your partner.

As a relationship expert, Isiah helps couples learn to listen and communicate better. It may surprise you, but a healthy sex life depends on communication. Sex is worthwhile when you can express what you need and what you don’t like. According to Isiah, sex is widely misunderstood, people lack sex education, and that backfires in their relationships. She and her team concentrate on helping couples communicate better with each other, so they can truly make the effort to please one another and make time for each other sexually.

“The biggest mistake we make is thinking that relationships and sex are natural. So it should just happen and we should just know what to do and it should just be great. Rather than recognizing that great relationships and great sex, require skills that can be learned, we’re not just all expected to know it,” said Isiah.

Isiah helps couples grow into better partners and lovers.

Isiah tells her clients that what they’re facing isn’t a sexual problem but a relationship problem. Everyday stress, shame, or fights between partners can put a strain on a couple’s sex life. Communication is the only thing that can fix that. Couples move forward by trying to confront and discuss these issues directly.

“Thank you for making this process, which could have been much more uncomfortable, as easy as possible. We feel connected now and it’s more fun. Initiating sex feels easier and pleasure comes easier,” Laura, one of Isiah’s clients, wrote in a testimonial.

Building Strategies for the Road Ahead

First off, sex shouldn’t feel like an intimidating chore that comes with loads of pressure. It should be pleasurable for both people. When it becomes anything else, couples start to feel a bit unsteady in their relationship. In a relationship, sex is something you need to put effort into.

Isiah keeps sharing her insight on sex and relationships on every platform.

Your sex life as a couple might not look the same 10 years down the road –– and that’s OK! Together with her team, Isiah helps clients develop strategies for improving their sex lives and finding ways to support their partners, too. Remember that mismatched sexual desires in a relationship deserve a couple’s attention, but they aren’t a cry for help yet.

Isiah explained that people with a high sex drive often end up frustrated and feeling rejected when their partner isn’t constantly reaching for them. Meanwhile, partners with a lower sex drive wrestle with shame and guilt because they’re not on the same level and may be making their partner unhappy. Isiah helps couples build a plan for finding a middle ground in the bedroom, which also covers things beyond sex, like flirty comments or physical touch.

“Very often people will kind of make the mistake of thinking they have to buy a sex toy. Or assume they have to have sex at least once a week and it just doesn’t work. It’s not sustainable over the long term. It’s important for couples to be holistic in their relationship and make sex a priority within that,” said Isiah. 

Isiah McKimmie: More Than a Decade of Helping Couples

A successful relationship begins when both people are willing to go the extra mile to make it work. With Isiah and her team on your side, you’ll get there, no doubt about it. Isiah has worked in the field for more than a decade and is proud that real change has taken place under her guidance. With her help, couples feel sexually renewed and more secure.

You can tune in to Isiah’s podcasts whenever you like.

And if you’re not sure about therapy yet, no big deal! Beyond counseling, couples can explore Isiah’s blogs and podcasts whenever they like. You and your partner can read the blogs, which cover everything from adding sex toys to your relationship to breaking out of sexual routines.

Isiah and her team have more on the way soon. She told us they’re working on two projects. One will give couples at home essential relationship tools covering three key areas: sexual intimacy, communication, and connection. The other will offer sexual and relationship training.

“Isiah and her team have made a huge difference to our lives. I’m no longer concerned about our relationship. It’s a huge relief. I would 100% recommend you, Isiah. I believe you’re the best therapist and coach in Australia,” one client wrote in a review.