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Let's Talk Red Flags

“I love spotting red flags,” said no one ever. So we want to help you spot them early in dating or relationships. That way, you won’t waste your precious time on the wrong someone.

Whether you just started texting someone, are going on a first date, or are months into a relationship that just feels off, we have the tools to help you spot the warning signs or troubling behavior you may be missing.

To be frank, red flags can be sneaky little things and hard to detect, especially if you’re really digging someone. So let us be your barometer.

Read about common red flags, such as love bombing and gaslighting, so you can understand what they are and how they appear. In no time, you’ll learn to identify toxic patterns and red flags in real time, as well as how to take action with confidence. We did the research, so you can kick bad dates to the curb.

What Our Experts Say:

What Our Experts Say:

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5 Red Flags of a Low-Effort Match (and How to Stop Wasting Time)

Liam Smith

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Tired of chasing someone who barely tries? Five signs of a low-effort match, from words that don't match actions to inconsistent energy, and what to do.

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Throning: When Someone Dates You for Status Instead of Love

Liam Smith

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Throning is dating someone for the status they bring. Spot five red flags, like being shown off in public but ignored in private, and see why people do it.

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Is Your Partner Avoidant? 6 Signs to Look For

Liam Smith

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Six signs your partner may be avoidant, from never going deep and hot-and-cold behavior to vanishing when things get good or dodging commitment talks.

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Unicorn Hunters, Explained

Nora Adams

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What unicorn hunting means in polyamory, why couples seek a third partner, and the ethical concerns around objectification and unequal power.

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“Love Is Blind”: Matchmakers See Heartbreak Ahead

Nora Adams

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Date coach Kara Laricks predicts which Love Is Blind season 8 couples will last, from Monica and Joey to Taylor and Daniel, and which red flags stand out.

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Revenge Porn: The Psychological and Legal Fallout

Evelyn Garcia

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What revenge porn is, the emotional and professional damage it causes, and the laws and legal hurdles victims face when intimate images are shared.

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Love Bombing in Dating: What It Means

Evelyn Garcia

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How love bombing works, from over-the-top compliments and gifts to nonstop contact, plus its three stages, six warning signs and the harm it leaves.

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Spotting a Narcissist Before You Fall for One

Kenji Takahashi

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True narcissistic personality disorder is rarer than the internet implies; experts put it near 5%. Key signs, plus five ways to tell if you're dating one.

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Is Your LGBT Relationship Abusive? Warning Signs to Know

Charlotte Harris

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Abuse often builds so slowly that people inside it miss it. The physical, sexual, emotional and financial warning signs, and what steps to take next.

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Still Hung Up on His Ex? 5 Clear Signs

Noah Miller

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From constant mentions to saying his ex's name in bed, five signs your boyfriend isn't over a past love, plus three calm ways to handle it together.

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Emma Wilson is the Editor-in-Chief at thecandiddate.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being 'boy crazy,' but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. Emma brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to thecandiddate.com.

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