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Kenji Takahashi
Women's Dating Expert
Kenji Takahashi is a Women's Dating Expert at thecandiddate.com, writing women's dating guides.
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16 posts • Last Updated 6/17/26
What relationship anarchy is, why it's trending now, and the real benefits and downsides of rethinking traditional relationship structures, in plain terms. Read More »
Too many matches can wear you out. Avoid choice overload: cap active chats, pursue two matches at once, prioritize the best ones and meet offline sooner. Read More »
Want commitment, not a fling? A writer who met her husband on Bumble shows how to spot casual daters, say you want a relationship and not settle. Read More »
China's one-child policy, in force from 1979 to 2015, left men outnumbering women. Here's how that imbalance shapes dating for Chinese men and women today. Read More »
What Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's romance can teach the rest of us: don't compete, stress test early, show support in public and tune out the noise. Read More »
How learned helplessness from childhood can pull you toward painful love, why codependency and narcissists feed on it, and how therapy helps. Read More »
A relationship author shares the seven Bumble habits that led her to her husband, from limiting choices and phone screening to watching for rematches. Read More »
Why the word no can help women skip situationships and set the pace in dating, where the fear of saying it comes from, and why it's worth pushing past. Read More »
The sidewalk rule says a man walks nearest the traffic. Here's its medieval origin, the psychology behind it, and why it's stirring debate online. Read More »
What studies reveal about love, from scent and oxytocin to testosterone and cheating, anxious texters, childhood trauma, and assortative mating. Read More »
Fall hard and fast, then feel let down? Here are three signs of anxious attachment, from badgering to creating drama, and how slowing down helps you heal. Read More »
Weddings can set off a wave of proposals, the wedding effect, but can also push couples to a breaking point. Here's why they stir up such strong feelings. Read More »
Long-distance love can work when emotional intimacy bridges the gap. Here's how to tell if an LDR suits you, signs it's failing, and how tech can help. Read More »
What does research say about consensual non-monogamy? How common it is, why men are most curious, whether poly people are happier, and who should skip it. Read More »
Falling in love acts on the brain like a drug and clouds judgment. Eight steps to walk in slowly, from dropping abandonment fears to setting boundaries. Read More »
True narcissistic personality disorder is rarer than the internet implies; experts put it near 5%. Key signs, plus five ways to tell if you're dating one. Read More »
















